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If you had to pick between these two statements to describe your past self – which one would you say fits the bill better?
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A Perfectionist: I strive for excellence, and I'm often seen as principled and meticulous in my approach to life That's me
A Helper: I'm a compassionate soul, always ready to assist others, even if it means putting my needs second That's me
An Achiever: Success is my driving force, and I'm goal-oriented, always aiming to be the best in my endeavors That's me
An Individualist: I embrace my uniqueness and creativity, constantly exploring my complex emotions and identity That's me
An Investigator: I'm naturally curious and analytical, driven by a thirst for knowledge and understanding That's me
A Loyalist: Trustworthiness is my virtue, and I seek security by preparing for any potential challenges or crises That's me
An Enthusiast: Adventure and fun are my constant companions, as I seek new experiences and avoid pain whenever possible That's me
A Challenger: I'm strong-willed and assertive, always seeking control and authority in my pursuits That's me
A Peacemaker: I'm easygoing and conflict-avoidant, striving for harmony and peace in all my relationships That's me
Type One(AKA The Perfectionist)
Super Powers
Strengths
Conscientious | Orderly | Appropriate | Ethical
My Needs
You are good
My Wants
Having integrity, being good, balanced, accurate, virtuous, and right
Struggles
Perfectionist
My Fears
Being wrong, bad, evil, inappropriate, unredeemable, or corruptible
My Weaknesses
Terrified of making a mistake, causing continual frustration and dissatisfaction
Level
Healthy
Committed, high integrity, balanced and responsible, patient with the process, forgives easily
Average
Dissatisfied, idealistic, feels responsible to improve everything, explains to others the “right” way
Unhealthy
Self-righteous, stubborn, intolerant, talks in absolutes, judgmental, black + white, rationalizes own behavior
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My Best Qualities
Ethical • Reliable • Productive • Wise • Idealistic Conscientious • Orderly • Self-Disciplined
Qualities To Work On
Judgmental • Inflexible • Dogmatic • Critical of Others • Uptight • Controlling • Anxious Jealous
Growth Path
Realize that doing their best is all that is required. Is OK to make mistakes.
Show Me Love
Be incredibly gentle when delivering criticism
Get The Best Of Me
• Make sure you take your share of the responsibilities, so I don’t have to end up with all the work.
• I’m very hard on myself so reassure me often and tell me that I am doing good.
• Tell me when you value my advice.
• Be as fair and considerate as I am.
• First listen to my worries or concerns, then help me lighten up by having fun.
At Work
My Best
Stressful situations can cause negative feelings but they are also a time to improve oneself. Focus on the positive and encourage others.
Productivity Tips
• You shine where rewards are doled out fairly.
• Be OK with good enough.
• Watch out for procrastination until perfection
People that Resemble My Personality
Michelle Obama, Mahatma Gandhi, Steve Jobs, and Eleanor Roosevelt
Type Two(AKA The Helper)
Super Powers
Strengths
Thoughtful | Generous | Demonstrative
My Needs
You are wanted and loved
My Wants
Being appreciated, loved, and wanted
Struggles
People-Pleasing | Possessive
My Fears
Being rejected and unwanted, being thought worthless, needy, or unworthy of love
My Weaknesses
Denying your own needs and emotions to focus on the emotions and needs of others first
Level
Healthy
Puts on own oxygen mask first, generous but with
boundaries, adapts well to changing circumstances
Average
Unable to express needs, unable to say no or create boundaries, people-pleasing
Unhealthy
Codependent in relationships, insecure, manipulative, “strings attached” generosity, self-neglecting
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My Best Qualities
Loving • Compassionate • Nurturing • Generous Supportive • Hospitable • Tuned In To How People Feel
Qualities To Work On
Intrusive • Martyr-like • Indirect • Manipulative Possessive • Flatterer • Needy
Overly Accommodating
Growth Path
Taking care of themselves before caring for others
Show Me Love
The best way to love a Two is to help them love themselves
Get The Best Of Me
• Tell me specifically what you appreciate about me.
• Take a real interest in my problems, even though I will try to focus the attention back onto you.
• Please let me know that I am special and important to you.
• If you need to point out something negative, please be gentle and tell me a few affirming things as well. I can be very sensitive to criticism.
At Work
My Best
Make sure that you have enough time to do the things you need to do for yourself. Set aside time each day to focus on your own personal tasks.
Productivity Tips
• You shine where interpersonal sharing is valued
• Remember to set boundaries
• Watch out for gossip
People that Resemble My Personality
Mother Theresa, Princess Diana, and Jimmy Carter
Type Three(AKA The Achiever)
Super Powers
Strengths
Efficient | Accomplished | Motivating | Driven
My Needs
You are loved for simply being you
My Wants
To have high status, admiration, success, valued and respected by others
Struggles
Image-Conscious
My Fears
Being a failure, inefficient, unproductive, worthless or unable to appear successful
My Weaknesses
Concerned with how they are perceived. Feels pressure to meet others’ expectations of them
Level
Healthy
Allows themselves to be truly known, self-worth is not tied to goals, finds balance between work, rest, + play
Average
Overachieving, becomes a workaholic, tries to earn love from others, worries about disappointing others
Unhealthy
Unable to admit mistakes, desperate for attention, exaggerates stories, petty & vengeful
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My Best Qualities
Self-Affirming • Industrious • Efficient • Self-Propelled • Energetic • Goal-Orienting Team Builder
Qualities To Work On
Self-Promoting • Pretentious • Vain • Superficial Exploitative • Overly Competitive • Workaholic
Growth Path
Peace and rest will come when you disconnect outward success with your value as a human being
Show Me Love
Vocalize your love for them and discourage constructed personas
Get The Best Of Me
• Tell me that you like being around me.
• Tell me how proud you are of me and my accomplishments.
• Please don’t interrupt me while I am working.
• Give me honest but not unduly critical or judgmental feedback.
• Help me to keep my surroundings harmonious and peaceful.
At Work
My Best
When under stress, they can become disinterested. Focus on what you can do to help the team and not only your own advancement.
Productivity Tips
• You shine where success is recognized
• Remember to celebrate your wins
• Watch out for workaholism
People that Resemble My Personality
Oprah Winfrey, Tony Robbins, and Lance Armstrong
Type Four(AKA The Individualist)
Super Powers
Strengths
Authentic | Creative | Expressive | Deep
My Needs
You are seen and loved for exactly who you are special and unique.
My Wants
Being unique, special, and authentic
Struggles
Dramatic | Self-Absorbed | Temperamental
My Fears
Being inadequate, emotionally cut off, plain, mundane, defective, flawed, or insignificant
My Weaknesses
Feel like others possess qualities you lack. Hates being misunderstood.
Level
Healthy
Able to manage emotional range, deeply creative and emotionally honest, connected to others
Average
Struggles with accepting self, exaggerates uniqueness, coy, “hard to get”, moody, melodramatic
Unhealthy
Manipulative, plays the victim, feels lack, drowns in shame, unable to connect or change for better
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My Best Qualities
Authentic • Compassionate • Introspective • Expressive • Creative • Supportive • Refined
Qualities To Work On
Withdrawn • Exaggerated Moods • Depressed Self-Pitying • Moralistic • Self-Absorbed • Possessive
Growth Path
You are not too much, and it’s okay to feel misunderstood
Show Me Love
In discussions, be intentional to listen. You don’t need to match their mood, just be authentic
Get The Best Of Me
• Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a great deal to me.
• Be supportive of me by helping me to love myself and see my significant value.
• Respect my unique abilities in having good intuition and vision.
• Please realize that I may not want to be cheered up when I am melancholy.
• Don’t tell me that I’m too sensitive or overreacting!
At Work
My Best
When you feel stressed, take a look at your workload and make sure you haven’t signed up for too much.
Productivity Tips
• You shine where you can express individuality.
• Remember to create rituals to stay on track.
• Watch out for drama, drama, drama
People that Resemble My Personality
Alanis Morrisette, Frida Kahlo, Bob Dylan, and Janis Joplin
Type Five(AKA The Investigator)
Super Powers
Strengths
Perceptive | Insightful | Intelligent
My Needs
Your needs are not a problem
My Wants
Being capable and competent
Struggles
Secretive | Isolated
My Fears
Being annihilated, invaded, or not existing; being thought incapable or ignorant
My Weaknesses
Withholding yourself and your resources from the rest of world
Level
Healthy
Long-term perspective, engaging, willing to share, abundance mentality, connected to body
Average
Scarcity mentality, rather observe than participate, substitutes thoughts for feelings, feels incompetent
Unhealthy
Doesn’t want to depend on others, stays separate, defensive, too independent, private, scarcity mindset
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My Best Qualities
Analytical • Persevering • Sensitive • Wise Objective • Perceptive • Curious
Qualities To Work On
Intellectually Arrogant • Stingy • Stubborn Distant • Critical of Others • Unassertive Cynical
Growth Path
You are brave for showing up despite your fears and preferred state of isolation
Show Me Love
They need space to process and desire conflict to be minimal and straightforward
Get The Best Of Me
• Be independent and not clingy.
• Speak in a brief and straightforward manner.
• I need a lot of alone time to process my feelings and thoughts.
• I don’t like surprises, intrusions on my privacy, too many emotions, needy people, and obligations.
At Work
My Best
If you find yourself becoming overwhelmed, focus on simple steps you can take instead of trying to solve every problem or find every unknown.
Productivity Tips
• You shine where there are minimal interruptions
• Remember to set a time limit for research
• Watch out and don’t isolate from the team
People that Resemble My Personality
Albert Einstein, Stephen Hawking, and Diane Sawyer
Type Six(AKA The Loyalist)
Super Powers
Strengths
Committed | Responsible | Faithful
My Needs
You are safe
My Wants
Having security, guidance, and support
Struggles
Anxious | Suspicious
My Fears
Being without support, security, or guidance; being blamed, alone, or physically abandoned
My Weaknesses
Scanning life and trying to predict and prevent negative outcomes creating a state of worry
Level
Healthy
Trusts own experiences, faith that things will work out, considers best for everyone, honest, reliable
Average
Questioning, worst case scenario, focused on authority, committed to a group, sees world as unsafe
Unhealthy
Sees danger everywhere, overly anxious and paranoid, untrusting, patterns of projection, indecisive
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My Best Qualities
Loyal • Likable • Prepared • Trustworthy Compassionate • Witty • Practical • Responsible
Qualities To Work On
Hyper-vigilant • Dependent • Unpredictable Judgmental • Paranoid • Defensive Self-Defeating • Self-Doubting
Growth Path
The world is made up of mostly good and honest people, and they desire to connect with you.
Show Me Love
Remind them of your commitment and encourage them to trust their own experiences
Get The Best Of Me
• Be direct and clear with me nut also listen to me carefully.
• Please don’t judge me for my anxiety.
• Reassure me that everything is going to be OK. Laugh and make jokes with me.
• Tell me and show me that you support me.
• Acknowledge that I am loyal, responsible, and supportive.
At Work
My Best
The key is to focus on the support that you have from your team, not on competition. Use that support to your advantage.
Productivity Tips
• You shine where there are clear responsibilities
• Remember to set a time limit for your “what if” Qs
• Watch out for indecisiveness
People that Resemble My Personality
George H.W. Bush, Tom Hanks, and Ellen DeGeneres
Type Seven(AKA The Enthusiast)
Super Powers
Strengths
Playful | Excitable | Versatile
My Needs
You will be taken care of
My Wants
Being happy, fully satisfied, and content
Struggles
Acquisitive | Scattered
My Fears
Being deprived, trapped in emotional pain, limited, or bored; missing out on something fun
My Weaknesses
Feeling emptiness inside and to "fill yourself up" with experiences and stimulation to feel complete
Level
Healthy
“Less is more”, understands that joy is received, spiritually grounded, embraces full range of emotions
Average
Reframes circumstances, finds happiness in anticipation, entertains group, uncommitting
Unhealthy
Sees themselves and environment as inadequate, feels things are unfair, avoids pain at all cost, reckless, risky
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My Best Qualities
Fun-Loving • Spontaneous • Imaginative Productive • Enthusiastic • Quick • Confident Charming
Qualities To Work On
Self-Focused • Impulsive • Escapist • Rebellious Distracted • Superficial • Manic • Self-Destructive
Growth Path
Pay attention to who you’re with and what you’re doing.
Show Me Love
Sevens don’t do well with co-dependence and can feel trapped by the needs and expectations of others.
Get The Best Of Me
• Give me companionship, affection, and freedom.
• Accept me the way I am, be enthusiastic with me. • Listen to my stories and grand visions.
• Laugh and make jokes with me.
• I don’t like to be told what to do or to be restricted.
At Work
My Best
Don’t focus on the things you don’t have or haven’t achieved. Instead, pay attention to the positives of your project.
Productivity Tips
• You shine in flexible and fun environments
• Remember to finish what you start
• Watch out for impulsive and undisciplined schedules
People that Resemble My Personality
Jim Carey, Iggy Pop, and Amadeus Mozart
Type Eight(AKA The Challenger)
Super Powers
Strengths
Assertive | Self-confident | Intense | Big-hearted
My Needs
You will not be betrayed
My Wants
Protecting yourself and those in your inner circle
Struggles
Willful | Confrontational
My Fears
Being weak, powerless, harmed, controlled, vulnerable, and left at the mercy of injustice
My Weaknesses
Desiring intensity, control, and power; pushing yourself on life and people to get what you desire
Level
Healthy
Great friend, excellent leader, champion of the underdog, uses power for good, able to collaborate
Average
Steamroller instead of diplomat, struggles to follow, little patience, uses aggression to protect emotions
Unhealthy
Preoccupied with betrayal, suspicious, revengeful, creates own reality, destructive, burns bridges
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My Best Qualities
Compassionate • Inspiring • Resilient • Loyal Energetic • Empowering • Protective • Self-Confident
Qualities To Work On
Loud • Vengeful • Excessive • Controlling Rebellious • Insensitive • Domineering Self-Centered
Growth Path
Listen and observe others before reacting, and include others when making decisions
Show Me Love
Eights value honesty and straightforward communication (don’t beat around the bush)
Get The Best Of Me
• Stand up for yourself and for me.
• Be confident, strong, and direct.
• Notice that I am tender and have a vulnerable side behind my strong exterior.
• Acknowledge the contributions that I make a but don’t flatter me.
• I often speak in a direct and assertive way. Don’t automatically assume it is a personal attack against you.
At Work
My Best
Take the lead on big initiatives that no one else wants to do. When under stress, focus on your team and what they need.
Productivity Tips
• You shine where there’s high risk, high impact
• Remember to delegate and trust
• Watch out and don’t boss others around
People that Resemble My Personality
Winston Churchill, John Wayne, and Donald Trump
Type Nine(AKA The Peacemaker)
Super Powers
Strengths
Thoughtful | Reassuring | Receptive
My Needs
Your presence matters
My Wants
Having inner stability and peace of mind
Struggles
Complacent
My Fears
Being in conflict, tension, or discord; feeling shut out and overlooked; losing connection with others
My Weaknesses
Remaining in an unrealistic and idealistic world in order to keep the peace, remain easy-going
Level
Healthy
Natural mediators, sees & values others’ perspectives, able to prioritize, unselfish, flexible, inclusive
Average
Stubborn, unaware of anger, feels unimportant, self-neglecting, stands up for others but not self
Unhealthy
Trouble making decisions, too dependent, numbing behavior, struggles to maintain illusion of harmony
Highlight
My Best Qualities
Pleasant • Peaceful • Generous • Patient Accepting • Diplomatic • Open-Minded Empathetic
Qualities To Work On
Spaced-Out • Forgetful • Stubborn • Obsessive Resigned • Passive-Aggressive • Judgmental Unassertive
Growth Path
Your voice matters, and once you find it, your relationships will know no bounds
Show Me Love
Nines need affirmation when they are honest, so celebrate the moments they speak up for themselves
Get The Best Of Me
• Be patient with me and don’t rush me.
• Tell me that my presence matters.
• Listen to me until I am finished talking.
• I enjoy discussions but dislike confrontations
• I tend to focus on others so take the time to really focus in on me.
At Work
My Best
When under stress, don’t feel like you have to tackle the problems head-on. Instead, focus on the situation as a potential growth opportunity.
Productivity Tips
• You shine in predictable with low tension places
• Remember to prioritize tasks
• Watch out and don’t hold back opinions
People that Resemble My Personality
Abraham Lincoln, Mister Rogers, and Princess Grace
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